“When we finished we considered it carefully. The first thing apparent was that this world and its people were often quite wrong. To conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got. The usual outcome was that people continued to wrong us and we stayed sore. Sometimes it was remorse and then we were sore at ourselves. But the more we fought and tried to have our own way, the worse matters got. As in war, the victor always seemed to win. Our moments of triumph were short-lived. It is plain that a life which indulges deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. To the precise extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have been worthwhile. But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience, this business of resentment is infinitely grave. We found that it is fatal. For when harboring such feeling we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the spirit.” pg.-66 How It Works, from the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous
Prior to receiving alcohol addiction help we are often times perfect examples of self will run riot. It usually ends in resentment. It is important that we surrender when going into a drug addiction detox, AA, 30 day rehab program so that we can begin work on these matters. Many of us have had times where we thought we were constantly being wronged and if only others changed we would be okay. When we are in this head space it can be difficult for us to change this thinking especially because when we are living in fear and resentment we often times forget to bring god into it. If we let go of our desire to change the past and forgive people we have a better chance to recover and be rid of resentments. It is after we have done the work on this that we can begin to heal and have a life of freedom and happiness.